Right Relationship

Relationship itself is at the heart of healing. And ethics and integrity are at the heart of any healing relationship. When we begin to widen our view to see and honor our web-like context of relationships, we speak and act more ethically. ~ Kylea Taylor, LMFT

The Inner Ethics™ model provides a reflective, compassionate, and transpersonal approach to being in “right relationship” with ourselves and our clients, and with others in community.

Ethics is the study of relationship. In the helping professions, when we work with our clients, we don’t just work with the diverse aspects of our clients, but with all the people and associations with whom clients are connected. Transcending the limited viewpoint that we are unrelated and wholly separate is essential for ethical development.

We are interconnected in the web of life, not only to sociopolitical systems and ethnic groups, but to all beings. This web connects systems beyond the walls of the treatment room, consulting room, or classroom into family, culture, ecosystem, all beings on Earth, and perhaps even beyond into unseen dimensions. We are all in this together.

Right Relationship is at the heart of healing

In the therapeutic, spiritual, medical, perinatal care, educational, or mentoring relationship, it is relationship itself that is at the heart of healing. And ethics and integrity are at the heart of any healing relationship.

The word “right” in “right relationship” is not quite the correct word in English for this concept, but it does have precedence in the mindful use by Buddhists of terms like “Right Livelihood.” When we are in “right relationship” we are “in the zone”, honoring both ourselves and our clients. As professionals we must formulate our own inner ethical code of what constitutes “right relationship” to a client. We must do this in general always, finding “right relationship” in every relationship anew, and in a moment-by-moment way in each client relationship as the relationship evolves.

Only our courageous soul-searching can bring awareness to our fears, desires, and spiritual longings. Our willingness to face our vulnerabilities and hidden motivations will allow us to apply self-compassion and make choices that are truly in the best interests of our clients.

Most of us want to do the right thing at the right time. The more we know ourselves, the more conscious choice we have, and the less harm we will do.